Why are there those sort of people? You know, the people who work themselves into your life and take it over when you're not looking. There are two things that bother me here: 1. I don't want anyone to take over my life. I don't think anyone really does (well, there are the weak-willed saps, but that's another topic). 2. I don't like these people. I'm not attracted to these people. Honestly, I don't want to have anything to do with them. When does the time come when you can stop them and say "leave me alone?"
Ah, but it gets tricky. These people want into your life so badly, that they will do things for you that your closest friends won't even think of. They insist on calling, taking you out, making it about you. Okay, that feels nice. But at the same time, ...eh. Don't know. I think the problem comes when you want to free yourself from them, but they show up where you are or do the pop-in (ew) and you're too nice to say that you don't want it anymore. They care about you so much (in their own twisted way) that you don't want to be the bad guy. How long can you possibly let this go on?
The time should be when you get to know them and see what kind of person they are. The longer you let this go on the more attached they will get. Sometimes you have to be the bad guy so both of you can move on in your life. Isn't that what you want nothing to do with them? Why torture yourself or this other person any longer?
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ReplyDeleteI appreciate your post and while I understand how difficult the situation is, it is not about me. Alas. :)